????? at First Sight

There are those out there who believe in love at first sight.  There are others who believe these cliches are for the dogs.  What I believe is a healthy balance is the perfect and most unattainable solution.  Let's be honest here.  If you see an a woman who looks like Angelina Jolie in Tomb Raider or a man looking like Brad Pitt in Fight Club, you are going to want to ride that ferris wheel for at least a few go-arounds.  The thing to look for is if it's love, lust or fascination?  As a girl who enjoys a good chick flick, I want to believe the longing glare at a crowded bar will lead to a happily ever after.  But after you take away the pretty music and slow motion, you are stuck with a smoke filled bar complete with men dancing with the zipper of their pants leading the tango straight to your back pocket and women's dresses getting caught in fish hooks leading towards the ceiling.  So what do you look for?  I mean all these dating shows and magazines tell you tips and but who the heck tells you what to do?  Have no fear your dating wonder women is here.  What qualifies me as this hero to the dating world you ask?  Well as a dating train wreck myself, I have learned a great amount about what not to do in order to let you know what to do!  So here are my words of wisdom so far, STOP BEING A JUDGMENTAL BIZNATCH!!!  I know that was harsh but in order to heal from your dating wounds, you need to rip off the lies like a band-aid.  It doesn't have to be judging based on looks or wealth. It could be as simple as assuming since a guy seemed sweet and harmless as first you won't get hurt.  Or because a guy is quiet and doesn't tell you that you are god's gift, that he is boring and not worth your time.  Patience is truly a virtue.  A very long and hard virtue but completely worth it in the long run.  Take it from a girl who is bleeding from biting her tongue too many times that good things come in the wrapping paper you would never pick out for yourself.  Give a guy a chance to show you he wants you and eventually you will hear the one thing you really want to hear....